Your outer sparkle can help your inner sparkle shine through
I just heard those words spoken and they caused me to pause and say to myself how true. I have believed those words most of my life because I have discovered through my personal experience that they are true. Your physical appearance reveals to the world an image, an impression and a branding of who you are and how you wish to be identified by others. Usually we are either drawn towards people or repelled by them because of the first impressions that we form and those first impressions are usually based on our appearance. That is why I believe if you want people to acknowledge you as you believe you deserve to be acknowledged, you need to sparkle both externally and internally.
Too often, I see people walking the streets looking like slobs. That is, their dress is sloppy, their physical appearance is unkempt and the image that they are portraying to the world is: I really do not care leave me alone.
Now, you might not agree with me, but I have personally discovered that when I dress poorly and am careless about my physical appearance, my entire persona and physiology reflects the same message.
Most of us do not realize that our appearance actually speaks volumes about our taste, our thoughts and our values. Our physical appearance allows others to form an impression of who we are immediately but it doesn't stop there. After someone is introduced to you and they begin to form an image of who you are
in their minds, they next begin to look deeper into your philosophy of life and how you think by the words that you speak. Of course, the physical appearance is important but no more important than the way we interact with others our words and actions can change everything.
Whether you are seeking to build a business relationship or a personal relationship, people want to know what makes you tick and that can only be discovered through your body language, attitude and behavior or action. If you are looking to trust someone or share an experience, you certainly want to make sure that person is worthy of your vote of confidence.
But let us not stop there. Your communication skills are vital for the success of a sound relationship. If you are extremely shy or withdrawn, others will soon lose interest in you. After all, we are attracted to others because we spark an interest in them and that interest either grows or dies depending upon our willingness to keep the sparkle alive. Just think about it a moment, most people want to learn more about those who are making a difference in the world. Whether you are an athlete, a news-maker or a professional political or business executive, you are being noticed and followed because people want to get to know you. So if you are interested in creating a sparkle in the world, it might be wise for you to start building upon your sphere of influence within your community and elsewhere.
If you believe that you have a voice and have something to contribute to your community, your friends and/or the world, you will need to brand yourself in the way that you wish others to see you, respect you and be influenced by you. I believe that each one of us has something special to offer to the world whether our world is small and our circle of influence is confined to our immediate family or whether we wish to extend our reach and affect the lives of many. The way we project ourselves makes a difference; I, therefore, suggest that you take the time to develop your external sparkle together with your internal glitter so that you attract the people you desire.
Joan Marie Ambrose
Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker