It takes courage!
You better believe it! It absolutely takes courage to get up each and every day and tackle the world but we all do it and often without giving it any thought. We push through our fears and worries and even our feelings of lack of self-confidence as we trudge along each day believing that it is going to get better and with time, it actually does.
When my children were very young, I remember saying to them often: " Please go easy on me because I have never been a mom before and I am learning and growing just like you." They would look at me with new eyes and I felt that they actually began to realize that I, too, was feeling the growing pains of life and how to deal with it. With time I began to realize that every time I ventured into a new experience, I felt those same growing pains. A new experience brought out those old feelings again because I was treading on the unknown and Iwasn'tsure what to expect, how was I to present myself and was I prepared for whatever it was that I was about to face.
So how do we do it? Why do we do it? Then---when will we finally arrive at a state of feeling sufficiently confident with our life choices and ourselves? I am beginning to realize that it indeed takes courage for most of us to walk our walk and talk our talk and yet we do it daily on our journey to become whom we really are.
So what is courage and how can we develop it? For me, courage is the virtue or attribute that allows me to become strong or stronger on a daily basis as I put one foot in front of the other and walk with my head held high believing in my capabilities and accepting me for who I am. I believe we all feel fearful maybe even on a daily basis without even identifying it as such, yet when you maintain a proactive approach to life and work at pushing yourself to reach out towards a better life and a better you, you are walking with courage. I just recently moved to a new state and a new community where Ididn'tknow anyone. I have done this several times before in the last 10 years and it never gets easier. I always end up talking to myself about my choices. I can choose to sit home and feel sorry for myself because I don't have friendships or companionship or I can go out, look for a way to make connections, and then simply do it. For me it takes courage and strength because, I find it difficult at best, yet I don't like the alternatives, so I realize that I am the one who must take action as I refuse to allow any excuses to get in my way. There are many forms of courage and I am sure your story might be more powerful than mine but none-the-less, I do not believe the issue is in the degrees of courage, it is simply having the courage to step out and make a differences in your life.
If you are having a difficult time in developing the strength to be courageous in your life, maybe these next few steps will help you get through your blocks.
1. Identify the force or reason behind your fear of stepping out and taking action. Often times when we put a name or face to our fears, they shrink in size and importance. Do not give into procrastination. It will only feed into your fears and create greater anxiety. Once you face them you will realize that they were not as big or powerful as you had perceived.
2. Talk to yourself and identify what it is that you are hoping to accomplish. Often times our strong desires far out way our fears and help set the stage for us to proceed with conviction.
3. Plan how you want this to work out and build upon it. If you want to give a presentation, practice it until it becomes second nature to you. Preparation is half the battle.
4. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. You are your greatest asset remind yourself of that truth often until you really believe it. Continue to speak to yourself in positive terms and finally
5. Realize that you have nothing to loose. Most of us have the same fears, anxiety and trepidations as you have. I find that a comforting thought. Some people stand tall and carry themselves with grace and charm even when they are afraid. Learn to do the same and with time, you will be out in the front of the pact feeling courageous, strong and great about who you are and who you have become.