How to communicate effectively with people

Too many of us are disconnecting with others in our lives because we lack the ability to communicate effectively. Communication is an art and when it is utilized properly, all parties are benefiting but the converse is also true, when we fail to get our message across, frustration and often anger result. I know I have spoken about this topic before and I must admit I do not have all the answers to resolve this dilemma but I can honestly say that I am a work in progress so I do have something to offer. I invite you to listen up and take heed. I am continually paying attention to how others communicate and get their point across and I must admit I am impressed. Take some notes, pay attention and listen to this advice because I believe that some of this information is valuable and could even possibly help you to become a sought-after person within your sphere of influence. Your age, your background and even your educational accomplishments have nothing to do with your willingness and your ability to become an effective and confident communicator.

To start I want to give you some tips that I know will benefit you and even possibly help you blossom in new and different ways. I believe you need to:

1. Look people in the eye when you or they are speaking. When someone is speaking to you and engaging in a conversation, they are pleased to know that you find their conversation worthy of your attention. I find it rude to have roving eye when I am speaking to someone. It means I am not interested in what you have to say. UGH!

2. Make your conversation interesting. If your conversation is self-centered and boring, no one is going to want to listen to you. Be creative stay on topic and become a fun conversationalist. Laugh a lot and stay light and entertaining.

3. Be a good listener. Respect how other people feel get an understanding of their point of view and attitude for a particular subject. You will soon discover that by listening you will receive the perfect clues for you to either back down and simple listen and observe or become a participant in the exchange. Please wait until the other person is finished speaking before you interrupt. You will be doing yourself a big favor by being respective of others point of view.

4. Tell a joke that will lighten up the conversation. I for one am terrible at telling a joke but I must admit that I admire those who have the artistic ability to communicate in that manner. So, I encourage you to try I know it will benefit you tremendously. I have been the observer of those who have been engaging in that manner and it is captivating.

5. Be aware of the other person's body language. If you are not holding their attention, get energized - maybe you need to change the subject. You know, the small gestures are most revealing and will most definitely help you determine the effectiveness of your message.

6. This is not a competition. Do not try to win the conversation - I encourage you to allow the other person to get the last word. If you disagree stay quiet and just move on. It is perfectly okay to let the other person express their thoughts and end the conversation.

Good communication is a skill an artful skill that needs to be cultivated. I hope that this message will help.

Joan Marie Ambrose

Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker

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Blog Date: 
Monday, June 17, 2013