Finding Happiness Again
Are you in a slump? Sometimes life gets overwhelming and no matter what you do, you just can't seem to find your happiness. It is my firm belief that you never truly "lose" your happiness. I believe that you may be focusing your thoughts entirely too much on things that do not serve your purposes. Canadian Author, L.M. Montgomery once said, "It's been my experience that you can nearly always enjoy things if you make up your mind firmly that you will." I agree with Ms. Montgomery. You must make a conscious effort to enjoy your life at every level along your journey. In other words, you must choose happiness. You cannot find something that was never lost.
I have a longtime friend, who has had many ups and downs in her life. She told me a story about how one day she was thinking about her dog, who had just passed away. She was saddened thinking about him and began to cry. As luck would have it, her very young grandson entered the room and noticed the tears across her cheeks. Puzzled as to why she was crying, he asked her, "Nana, why are you crying?" To which she responded, "I am just very sad because I miss my dog." Rubbing his temple, the little blue-eyed boy put his hand on her shoulder and replied excitedly, "That's okay, Nana - he is in Heaven now! You don't have to be sad." My friend could not help but smile by his innocent enthusiasm and compassion. He wanted to reassure her that because the pet had made it to Heaven, he was okay now. It is that childlike passion for life and the constant expression of happiness that many of us commonly take for granted and do not openly express ourselves.
Whether you are feeling saddened by the loss of a loved one, are feeling down because you are at odds with a family member or friend, or maybe you just feel sad because you want more out of life -- I want you to inject some of that same childlike quality into your own life. Close your eyes and think back to a time when you were little and you couldn't stop laughing. You were so happy and there was nothing that could make you feel badly. Now capture that warm and peaceful image in your mind. How does it make you feel? I promise if you are not smiling yet, you will be.
When you feel down and you are trying to "find happiness" in your life, I want you to reflect on that little girl or boy you remember from a long time ago. The same holds true for every aspect of your life - from work, to home, to family, friends and dreams. When you begin seeing life through the eyes of your inner child, you stop concentrating on the negatives and start refocusing on all the blessings that surround you.
There are many more blessings than you can even begin to count on one hand. You need only open your eyes to see them right in front of you. Going forward, make the active choice to find joy in everyday living. Go to work with enthusiasm, love your family unconditionally, make friends with someone new, laugh a little harder, honor those who support you, invite more to come to know you, show more compassion, dare to dream, and always make the best of a bad situation. Yes, life will give you lemons but you don't
have to drink the sourness - instead, make lemonade and taste the sweetness you create all by yourself.