Do you doubt your capabilities?
Do you believe that you are a capable person or do you usually sheepishly move about believing that life is tough and you are not able to grow and move in various directions because you have never done it before? I have found myself saying at various stages of my life: "I have never done this before" and those simple words have caused me to put the brakes on and slow down my energy because I was afraid to try something or learn something that was new to me. Fear of the unknown can be debilitating that is why I have grown to realize and understand that I MUST at least try something new. What I have discovered is that after much hesitation and procrastination, when I push myself, I find that I am capable of doing the one thing that I feared.
That realization has strengthened my resolve and encouraged me to keep trying to examine and explore new possibilities that I now realize I am able to achieve. I am sure we all ask ourselves many questions daily but it is how we answer them that is important. You see; it is the answer that you give to yourself that will help you decide on who you want to become and how you want to be remembered.
Maybe this is the time to remind you of all the things that you are good at and are capable of achieving. You might surprise yourself with some key strengths that you have prior to this time, forgotten about and ignored. You might need to get a legal pad and draw a line down the center and then at the head of your first column write your strong characteristics or abilities and on the other side your weaknesses and/or fear.
Self-motivation is powerful. Here is an example that might help you. If you are a good communicator or believe that you have a voice and a message to share with others but you fear walking into a meeting alone or a group encounter, maybe you need to look yourself in the mirror and say: I am capable I have the abilities to network and interconnect with others and I know that I will thoroughly enjoy walking into a room alone because I have something special to offer.
Talking to yourself and encouraging you are practical and a necessary tool to helping you overcome your fears and shortcomings. Preparing your emotions for all the ���what if's' that can happen will enable you to be even more prepared. Ever time I have encountered those types of fears or worries, I have done exactly that and to my delight, my fear evaporated and I thoroughly enjoyed the experience.
Believing in your capabilities and acknowledging your talents is a wonderful way of moving beyond the words: "I have never done that before." With time you will discover that those words have no weight and that you indeed are capable of taking on many new projects because your fears have been groundless. Once you trust and believe in yourself and your capabilities, you will see that others begin to believe in you too and invite you to join them in doing great things. What an awesome possibility!
"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities!
Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." --Norman Vincent Peale
"The generality of mankind is lazy. What distinguish men/women of genuine achievement from the rest of us is not so much their intellectual powers and aptitudes as their curiosity, their energy, their fullest use of their potentialities. Nobody really knows how smart or talented he/she is until he/she finds the incentives to use him/herself to the fullest. God has given us more than we know what to do with it. -Sydney J. Harris