Breaking Bad

Not to be confused with the television series This article is about those of you who are stuck in a poor pathway in life. You continue to conduct the same actions and behaviors over and over again. It is almost like you are stuck in repeat mode. Your habitual behaviors have begun to affect your life in negative ways; and now you feel like you are at the point of no return. Is this you?

Is there comfort in bad behavior?

There was a woman, who throughout the course of her life, chose to lead a stagnant lifestyle. She had no aspirations to improve herself; and even when given opportunities to create a successful life for herself, she made the active choice not to pursue those opportunities. Now in her early 50's, she found herself in a depressing position where she began questioning her purpose and meaning in life. As she looked back across the decades, she thought about all her missed opportunities. To make matters worse, her idle lifestyle had led to her becoming overweight and unhealthy. Where did all the time go, she wondered. Because she had nothing but time on her hands, she began to think about all of her past failures and missed chances at truly achieving prosperity. She had constantly made excuses for why she did not use her talents and gifts in life up until this point. Now much older, her excuses began to escape her; so she began to think about her childhood experiences. She suddenly started blaming every experience and everyone else around her for her inequities and lost chances. She found it comforting to use these newborn excuses because she made the active decision not to achieve her own success in life. The hard truth is that this behavior is only a crutch. The sad reality is that many individuals use past experiences and people as a means to excuse their own self-abusive behaviors.

Stop holding yourself hostage to the crutch you have built for yourself. No one or nothing can make you feel any particular way. Ultimately, you are the one in control of your own emotions and lifestyle. You cannot change the past, but you do have the opportunity to create your own happiness, success and prosperity right now. If you continue to choose living on your crutch, then you have no one else to blame for your inequities except yourself.

For example, if you want to enter the workforce and build a successful career for yourself, then it is up to you to initiate that process for yourself. Your spouse, friends and family cannot do that for you. Only you can. If you want to become healthier and happier, then you must make the active choice to shape your destiny. This means you have got to get up and start moving. Stop languishing in your own self-pity and put some fire behind your actions. Possibly you need to ask yourself questions like:

  • What steps do I need to take to lose this excess weight?
  • What do I need to do to rid myself of this chronic illness?
  • What actions can I take to become balanced and fit?
  • What guidance can I get to help me rediscover happiness in my life?
  • What direction do I need to take to invest in my present and my future?

You must stop clinging to your negative attitude. Own your failures and grow from them. Accept your life for what it is, and then create a plan to become the success, have the happiness, and experience the wellness you want and deserve in your life.

Joan Marie Ambrose -- Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker

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Blog Date: 
Saturday, March 1, 2014