Be your own hero

Have you ever read one of the Disney fairy tales where the mean witch locks away the beautiful princess and a handsome young prince comes along on his magnificent white steed, magically rescues her and then they live happily ever after? Or just like many modern-day action movies, a last-minute hero or heroine steps up to the plate and saves the day? They are always fun to read or watch; but in reality, you cannot wait for the hero to show up at your doorstep so you can live happily ever after. In truth, you are the one who must be your own hero.

If you are honest with yourself and you look back at your life, you will often find there have been times when you have created your own misery and self-destruct modes. Maybe you made a bad choice along your journey - and that is okay. It does not mean that you must continue to make the same choices. Once you have identified costly decisions of the past, you will understand the steps you need to take to make things right in your life.

You start seeing progress on your journey when you take the initial first step in seeking real solutions for issues you have been neglecting. If you continue to fall into your own traps, then you have to regroup and refocus your efforts on making the right choices for yourself. For example, if your finances are in shambles and you know that you spend too much money on nonessential items, then you need to write down a list of priorities for yourself. What is it that you need the most? What can you stand to do without in your day-to-day living? Yes, it is that simple. That is the easy part. The challenge is sticking to your list and keeping true to it.

Maybe you are struggling with relationships. If you have a pattern of empty or broken relationships, then maybe the problem is how you perceive those relationships and how you interact on personal and even professional levels. If you are carrying around baggage from past failures, then you cannot have productive relationships in the here and now. In this case, I would recommend creating a pro and con list for yourself. On the pro list, write all the positive traits you are seeking. On the con list, write all the traits that are a turn-off to you. Now review the list carefully. Singer, songwriter Jennifer Lopez once remarked, "You mirror what the world mirrors to you." So if you find some of the traits (on your list) you do not like to be your own, then you must change yourself first.

When you are the hero in your own life story, you do not make excuses; rather, you make success happen. The opportunities that you have missed in your life are still there, you just have to rediscover them. Do not wait for a knight in shining armor, a prince on a steed, or Wonder Woman to show up in your life to create happiness and success for yourself. When you decide that life is too important to sweat the small stuff, regret the negative stuff, and lament on all your woes, you suddenly discover that your journey is just beginning. In fact, as you become the hero of your life, you begin to champion your dreams, achieve your goals, and realize your destiny. No more waiting for someone or something to enter your life because you can do it when you are willing to go the extra mile.

In the end, you are the hero of your story. Only you can live the dream you want to live. Learn to rely on yourself by first loving yourself and forgiving yourself. After you do, you will feel the weight of the world lifted off your shoulders. Everything becomes lighter, your life becomes crystal clear and before you know it, you will be living the dream and living in joyfulness.

Joan Marie Ambrose -- Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker

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Blog Date: 
Monday, November 11, 2013