To be able to trust used to mean something

Are you a skeptical person, always doubting others or questioning the validity or authenticity of something?

When I was growing up, I observed how my father expressed trust with others by extending a handshake, which usually meant that I take you by your word. Theydidn'tneed lengthy contracts to seal the deal because a man's word meant something. When you trust another, it usually means that you have a good feeling about them and what they have to say. Companies ask consumers to trust that their product is worthy of their dollars. Whether it is the food that we buy, the clothing that we wear or some brand name that implies that good and useful value is exchanged.

Trust is a commodity today that is often bought and sold at whim. Unfortunately it seems that too many people can be bought for a price, which regrettably destroys the meaning of the word. A good example is the cyclist, Lance Armstrong, a man who gave the impression to the world that he did not take enhancement drugs to help his career. He basically said: "You must believe me." Yet through various sources and testimonies by his peers and associates, it has been noted that he was being dishonest. The world trusted him and wanted to believe what he said, but it appears that his actions gave a different story. More often than not we are seeing this behavior played out on the world stage by individuals and companies who have lost their sense of worth and compromised their values.

I recently sent a package from New Jersey to California via the US Postal Service. I trusted the system. I bought a tube to put the package in and I paid extra for delivery confirmation. The package never arrived. Six weeks later the postal service refused to discuss the matter and eight weeks later they said it was an old file and removed from their system so I had no recourse. When I asked to be reimbursed for my expenses, they laughed! In short, I lost confidence in their system and decided to send my packages in the future through other carriers. Their system is going broke they are continually crying poverty and state that they need more funding from the government and the people in order to survive. I have a problem with people and organizations that we cannot trust and that prove that they are not only inefficient but lack professionalism and a reason for trusting them.

It leads me to believe that they have a different agenda that they do not do what they say and that they are not trustworthy. I am not alone; many people feel the same way because we have been misguided by the words of others that say one thing and do another.

Trust is sacred. The word trust means believing in someone or something without reservation. It means that you feel safe and secure with the person or situation and that you can be content knowing that everything will be okay.

Trust is also something that must be earned and if you trust first and hope that the person will hold up to your beliefs then you also know that if it is lost, most of the time, it can not be reinstated. In other words, it is lost for good. Trust trustworthiness integrity-three words that say it all. I personally find these words to have a sacred meaning and a sacred place in my heart. I must admit that these three words also have the power to sadden and cause people to do the exact opposite, which is mistrust and deceive.

Trust once broken, is difficult to rebuild. So I encourage you to watch your words. Value what you say, say what you mean and do what you say you are going to do because it is only then that your word has meaning and value and that is what trust is built upon.

Joan Marie Ambrose

Author, Creative Writer, Motivational Speaker

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Blog Date: 
Thursday, January 10, 2013